Both James and David’s mums, Susan and Carole, were honoured to give a last kiss as ‘single’ people to their sons
1st of February 2025 at The Savings Bank, Glasgow – Photo credit: Marc Miller Photography
Blog written by: Hazel Dale, Humanist Celebrant at Fuze Ceremonies
Weddings are rich with tradition, often assigning special roles to family members—fathers accompanying loved ones down the aisle, siblings standing as best man or bridesmaid, and even younger relatives taking part as page boys or flower girls. But what about the mothers? The incredible women who were there from the very beginning, offering love, guidance, and care?
As weddings evolve, especially with a Humanist led wedding ceremony, and move away from rigid traditions, there are many examples of couples embracing more personalised and meaningful moments and Symbolic gestures are becoming an increasingly popular way to reflect the couple’s unique story. One of the most touching additions to modern humanist ceremonies is The Mother’s Kiss—a gesture that honours the unbreakable bond between a mother and her child.
I was lucky enough to work alongside David and James recently to conduct their humanist led wedding ceremony at The Savings Bank, Glasgow and was delighted when they both ask me to add in The Mother’s Kiss symbolic gesture to their humanist wedding ceremony.
Working alongside David and James to create their uniquely personal humanist ceremony at The Savings Bank, Glasgow was just incredible
What is The Mother’s Kiss?
It’s very simple and straightforward to include as just before the celebrant makes the official declaration of marriage, both mothers are invited forward to stand beside their son or daughter. This is best kept a secret until the big day as adds a beautiful and thoughtful moment in itself. It can be overwhelming so keep those hankies at the ready – in a good way of course.
In a moment filled with deep emotion, the celebrant shares a beautiful sentiment, such as:
“As the first people to ever hold and kiss you when you entered this world, it is only right that your mothers now give you their last kiss to you as single individuals—before you share your first kiss as a married couple.” As with any humanist ceremony gesture, your celebrant will work alongside you both to get the wording absolutely right and uniquely personal to you.
As I mentioned, if kept a surprise, this heartfelt moment is very powerful and as they step forward and embrace their children, there are often happy tears, laughter, and an overwhelming sense of love in the room.
It was emotional and joyful to offer James and David’s mums their chance to kiss their ‘single’ sons for the last time
A Gesture That Works for All Families
Weddings today celebrate love in all its forms, and The Mother’s Kiss can be adapted to suit different family structures. For those who have been raised by grandparents, step-parents, or other significant caregivers, this gesture can be adjusted to honour those who have played the most important role in the couple’s life. A carefully crafted explanation from the celebrant ensures that the moment is inclusive and meaningful for everyone involved.
Why Include The Mother’s Kiss in Your Ceremony?
- It honours the role of mothers: This gesture gives mums the recognition they truly deserve on such a special day.
- Creates an emotional highlight: It is often one of the most touching and memorable moments of the ceremony.
- Includes more family members in a meaningful way: A great option for couples looking to celebrate their loved ones.
- Adds an element of surprise: Keeping this moment a secret from the mothers adds to the magic and emotion of the day.
At Fuze Ceremonies, we believe in making every wedding a personal and heartfelt experience. The Mother’s Kiss is just one of the many ways we help couples craft a ceremony that is uniquely theirs—filled with love, meaning, and unforgettable moments.
Literally sealed with a kiss, James and David had the blessing of their mums
For couples who may not have their mothers present, this beautiful gesture can be re-imagined to include any mother-like figure who has played a significant role in their life. Whether it is an aunt, grandmother, stepmother, or a beloved family friend, The Mother’s Kiss can be adapted to reflect the love and gratitude felt for those who have offered support, guidance, and care throughout the years.
Blog written by: Hazel Dale, Humanist Celebrant at Fuze Ceremonies
